Quizzes
Two quizzes for the two of you
One is about how you make up after a fight. The other is about how you text when it is already going wrong. Ten questions each, about two minutes. Free, no sign up, and your answers are not saved.
After the fight
How do the two of you make up?
The shouting is over. One of you wants to sort it out before bed. The other needs an hour of quiet first. Neither of you is wrong, and that is the part nobody ever explains.
You get: how you repair, what you need when you are hurt, what makes it worse, and one line you can actually say out loud.
Four possible results: by talking it through, with space first, through small actions, with warmth and lightness.
Start the repair quiz →While it is happening
How do the two of you fight over text?
You send three paragraphs. They send “k”. Then you both sit there reading tone into a screen that does not have any.
You get: how you text when it is tense, where your two habits crash into each other, and what to do with the phone in your hand at eleven at night.
Four possible results: the long message, the one-word reply, the phone call, the softener.
Start the texting quiz →Answer. Send your result. See theirs. Nothing to download.
How it works
Both quizzes work the same way. It is built for two people, not one.
- You answer ten questions.
It asks your name first, so your partner knows who sent it. Nothing else is kept. - You get your result, and a link.
One tap sends it on WhatsApp, or anywhere else you talk. - They answer the same ten.
Two minutes on their phone. No app, no account. - Then you both see both results.
Side by side, with what each of you needs, where the two of you get stuck, and one thing to try this week. There is a card you can save or send too.
Which one should we start with?
Start with the repair quiz if…
Your arguments end, and then hang around the house for two days. Or one of you goes quiet and the other keeps following them from room to room. Or you keep having the same fight and never the one underneath it. Take the repair quiz.
Start with the texting quiz if…
Most of it happens on a phone. One of you is at work, a message lands wrong, and by the time you are both home it has grown into something neither of you meant. Take the texting quiz.
Not sure?
Take the repair quiz. It is the one most couples recognise themselves in fastest. Then do the texting one, because for most people now the two are the same fight in two different places.
What these are not
Neither of these is a test, and there is no good score. Nobody comes out of it as the healthy one and nobody comes out as the problem.
All each quiz does is put a name to something you already do. Once the thing has a name, the two of you can talk about it instead of having a fight about the fight. That is the whole point. “I need twenty minutes and then I am coming back” is a sentence. Walking out of the room is not.
The ideas underneath both quizzes come from work that has been studied for decades, and we have written each one up plainly: the first three minutes of a conversation, the twenty minutes a flooded body needs, the small moves called repair attempts, and humour used during a fight rather than instead of it.
Questions people ask
Are the quizzes free?
Yes, both of them. No sign up, no email, no account. Your answers are not saved anywhere.
How long does each one take?
Ten questions each, about two minutes.
Which one should we take first?
If your arguments end but then hang around for days, start with the repair quiz. If most of your arguments happen on a phone while one of you is at work, start with the texting quiz. If you are not sure, start with the repair one.
Can we both take the same quiz?
Yes, and that is the point. One of you answers, sends a link, the other answers the same ten questions, and then you both see the two results side by side with one thing to try.
Are these personality tests?
No. They show how you tend to behave at the moment, not who you are. People change, and so do the ways they come back to each other.
Do we need the app?
No. Both quizzes run in your browser and there is nothing to install. The app is for the part the quiz cannot do: being there in the actual conversation, while it is happening.
After the quiz
The quiz names it. The app helps you do it.
A result is a useful thing to have. The hard part is still the message you are about to send at eleven at night, when you already know how it is going to land. That is the bit Comminxy is for.
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