From Comminxy
Unsent Letters
Write what you can’t say.
You don’t have to send it.
Letters stay with you unless you choose to share them or send them.
Unfinished, on this device
Write to the person you love, the person you lost, or the person you’re angry with. Write the apology you haven’t managed to make, or the goodbye you never got to say. It doesn’t have to be beautiful and it doesn’t have to make sense yet.
When you’re finished, you choose: keep it private, show it on Comminxy with your name or without it, or have it delivered to them. You can change your mind, or delete it, any time.
Whatever is happening between you and them right now, you can start here.
What is an unsent letter?
An unsent letter is a letter you write to a real person with no plan to give it to them. People have written them for as long as there have been letters: to someone who left, someone who died, someone they hurt, someone they can’t stop thinking about, or someone who sleeps beside them and still feels far away. Writing one gives a feeling somewhere to go without turning it into a message the other person has to receive.
Counsellors have used the unsent letter for a long time, in grief work especially, because putting the words in order changes how they sit in you. Most people find out what they actually feel somewhere in the second paragraph.
Who people write to
An ex, a partner they are still with, a parent, a friend they lost touch with, a person who died, or a version of themselves from years ago. Most letters here are to someone in a relationship that is changing: starting, straining, pausing, ending, or being remembered a long time later. If what you need to say is an apology, what a real apology looks like may help before you write. If it is something you said over text and wish you hadn’t, this is for you.
What happens to your letter
Nothing, unless you choose something. You can keep it private, where only you can see it. You can show it in letters people couldn’t send, with your name or without it. And if you decide they should read it, you can have it delivered by email, now or on a day you choose. Every letter stays in My letters, where you can change what happens to it or delete it.
Questions people ask
Is it private?
Yes, unless you choose otherwise. A letter you keep private is visible only to you, in your own account. It is shown to others only if you choose to show it, and delivered only if you send it.
Do I need an account?
Not to write. You can start straight away. To keep a letter, show it or send it, you sign in with your email and a one-time code. There is no password.
Can I write to someone who has died?
Yes. Many unsent letters are written to people who are gone. The letter can be addressed to a name, an initial, or no one at all.
Can I upload a letter I wrote by hand?
Yes. You can photograph up to four pages. Hidden details in the photo, such as where it was taken, are removed before anything is kept.
Is this therapy?
No. Unsent Letters is a place to write and a safe place to keep what you wrote. For professional support, a counsellor or therapist is the right next step. If you’re in danger, or thinking about hurting yourself, please reach someone who can help right now.
Unsent Letters is part of Comminxy, a place for the moments in a relationship you don’t know where to put.
You can leave this empty.
Where are things right now?
This helps us word things gently. It's fine to skip.
What do you wish you could say?
Saved on this device as you write.
If you're in danger, or you're thinking about hurting yourself, please reach someone who can help right now.
What would you like to do with this?
Whatever you choose, you can change it later from My letters.
How should it appear?
Use a nickname or an initial for them, and for anyone else you mention, and leave out anything that would let someone who knows you both recognise them. It appears as soon as you share it.
For photos, check the edges of the picture for anything you didn’t mean to include, like a letterhead, a photo on the desk, or a hand.
When?
On that day we’ll email you and ask once more. Nothing goes before you say so.
Once it’s sent, it’s theirs. We can’t take it back.
Sign in to keep it safe
Your letters are kept in your own account, so you can find them from any phone or laptop, change what happens to them, or delete them.
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